Petersfield knows its boundaries - and backs! Book Event Review

Victoria Lambert and Jennie Miller, co-authors of the groundbreaking new book, 'Boundaries - 'How to Draw the Line in Your Head, Heart and Home' shared insights with a rapt audience at Beatons Petersfield on Friday, 16th March 2018. 

Guests included a lovely group of three osteopaths and a kinesiologist from Nurture Your Health in Froxfield, Petersfield - no doubt experts at sensing the boundaries of their clients!

The video shows Victoria and Jennie explaining how right from the outset they 'walked their talk' in setting clear boundaries in the writing of the book, which took three years from idea to printed copy. 

Beatons Petersfield Boundaries Book Event - Enthusiastic Audience
Three Osteopaths and a Kinesiologist
Guests at Boundaries Book Talk at Beatons Petersfield
It was an interactive talk - always the best - and certainly dispelled the myth that boundaries need be hard and aggressive. Indeed, Jennie described them as 'healthy, wholesome and soft...' using
the skin as a lovely analogy.

A full book review will appear once I've devoured my copy, in my own time. However, judging from numerous reviews and comments from guests who had already purchased a copy you would be well placed to simply pop into Beatons Petersfield, buy Boundaries and start reading, especially if you finding saying 'no' difficult!

Beatons Petersfield Book Signing by duo who know their boundaries!

Come along to Beatons Petersfield this Friday - 16th March to hear from the co-authors of the newly published 'Boundaries: How to Draw the Lines in Your Head, Heart and Home'.

Victoria Lambert and Jennie Miller will be giving a talk and signing copies at 3 pm - a real tonic for all who are looking to create a wholesome work/life balance in a world ever more demanding.

The event is free but seating is limited so arrive in plenty of time to secure your spot and your pot!

The only boundaries we'd suggest removing for the afternoon are your waistbands.  It's a perfect occasion for a piece of gluten-free cake or a Cream Tea.

Inside Job at Beatons New Milton!

Here's a peek behind the scenes at what will be Beatons Tearooms New Milton! We have a great local builder and it's all systems go, although all systems 'snow' did cost us a couple of days... 
Beatons New Milton Builder on Stilts
Did you know builders need circus skills
these days?! 

However, we're still looking at an early to mid-April opening. Look out for details in April's edition of the New Milton Mail, The Bugle and The Mercury as well as details on - both great community assets we've found.  And thanks too, to The Bournemouth Echo for a lovely piece introducing Angela, our Tearooms Owner.

But it's pictures which tell a thousand words - so check out the joys of a Beatons Tearooms shop-fit!

Not a patch of signature Beatons Tearooms Pink to be seen except in this text..

... yet!

Here, Colin our lovely builder and his colleague look at the timeline on Founder, Patrick's, laptop. Serious focus and attentiveness.

We raise a cup of Beatons' brew to them - good strong loose leaf tea - check out what other teas you'll be able to taste here

Mothers Day Poem You Can Use!

Is Your Mum a Sheep?  Or a fox? 
Here are some verses you're welcome to use to add a unique and personal touch to your Mother's Day card as I've waived copyright on them. If you want to copy the words out, pop into any Beatons and you'll find it printed in the March Bulletin or e-mail me direct at

Liz Darcy Jones
Beatons House Poet

S is for Special

Her own mother had passed away and, like me, she had no children of her own. But on a rare ‘dark night of soul’ at a retreat without telephone contact with my own mum, this dear friend mothered me in the special way mothers do. I received an endless outpouring of unconditional gentleness into the early hours, until I didn’t have any tears left.

For years afterwards, I sent this friend a Mother’s Day card to thank her for that night. She was always surprised and touched.
Happy Mother, Happy Children
at Beatons Chester Event 

The habit has continued but with different recipients. It expands my Mothering Sunday into something a little bigger, a little more inclusive and a little less predictable. It gives the day wider arms. Yes, my mum gets her Mother’s Day Card – and perhaps a little book to delight her eyes. And – if my father and I can persuade her not to be ‘up and out’ with all the joy of a gazelle who doesn’t count her eighty−something years – she’ll enjoy breakfast in bed too.  But someone, somewhere else, will also receive a card to thank them for mothering me at some point during the year. Or maybe it’ll be a card to a friend who’s recently lost their mum, or to a single parent dad who’s also mum to his kids…

Maybe it’ll give you an idea to do something similar?

I never get any cards myself, but this year I do feel more like a ‘real’ mum. Because I have acquired a huge winged family. They currently comprise: a charm of twenty−four gold finches; innumerable tits – from ‘Feisty’ (a tiny wizened blue tit) to Tweedle−dum and Tweedle-dee who never feed without each other; two robins (constantly bickering); a pied wagtail; a nuthatch; a pair of chaffinches; a young thrush; a family of blackbirds and an occasional dunnock. Oh yes, and the little vole who helps eat up the crumbs!

There are also other children. They, too, are wild and not designed to be tamed − my creative projects which respond best to being held close, nested in a clear framework to keeps them as safe as possible yet with maximum freedom to fly.

Story-telling in Nature
I try to be a good mother to them. This wonderful observation by Hannah Rachel Bell observing the life of a new-born baby of the Ngarinyin people of Australia reminds me, ‘Touch, smell, the rhythm of the heartbeat, and breathing are considered ‘food’ as necessary for survival as mother’s milk. Through these functions, the baby is attuned to its own humanity, and the rhythm or resonance of its group and culture.* As with real children, closeness is critical.

My project ‘children’ do not honour Mother’s Day. But once they have found their voice and place in the world they occasionally prompt admiration. Then comes the shy blush of delight of a mother who knows that, once seeded, motherhood is inevitable and the sweet pause of acknowledging the creative force which births EVERYTHING.

Every mum, like every child, is special. This month we raise a glass of Prosecco to everyone who’s felt the joy of ‘mothering’ – whether its to the birds, a creative project or a brood of demanding children! Call into your nearest Beatons to find out how you can enjoy a glass of Prosecco with your mum when you book Afternoon Tea.

Happy Mother’s Day!

Liz Darcy Jones
House Poet

*Quoted in ‘Kith, The Riddle of the Childscape’ by Jay Griffiths, Penguin 

Beatons New Milton: Venue Announced!

Yes!  A Beatons Tearooms and Bookshop is coming to New Milton ! We can now announce exactly where you'll be able to find just the place for loose leaf tea, home-baked cakes and light meals, along with Beatons' special brand of gracious hospitality! That means table service, elegance and attentiveness - and a place in town where you can enjoy the whole English Afternoon Tea experience too.

After somewhat of a wait, a very eager New Miltons Franchise Business Owner - Angela Thorn - is delighted to have secured her spot at 4 Bursledon House, Station Road, BH25 6HS. It will be our sixth Beatons Tearooms and is set to open around Easter.

The venue is ideally situated in a central position in what is effectively New Milton's high street - Station Road. The shop was the former hearing and mobility centre, so access will be very mobility friendly!

Read more about Angela and why New Milton was her choice for setting up her Beatons here, and discover which charity she's chosen as her charity of the year here.

Think you might like joining her team? We offer excellent training and value members of our teams very highly. More details here

Beatons New Milton - Charity of the Year Announced!

left-right: Steve Anderton and Jo Kane from HOPe
and Beatons New Milton Tearooms Owner
Angela Thorn
Helping Older People New Milton (known as HOPe) is to be Beatons New Milton’s first charity of the year. Well and truly rooted locally, founded by and serving the local community, it aims to support its older local residents − especially those feeling isolated and vulnerable.

How? Through all kinds of support – advisory, practical and emotional. Its latest new initiative is a Befriending Scheme which Beatons are particularly keen to support. We regularly see the benefits of customers being encouraged to share a table and then watch friendly connections being made.

When Beatons' latest Tearooms Owner, Angela, discovered HOPe New Milton she immediately spotted a match with the part of Beatons’ Constitution which reads:

‘We value individuals whether customer, franchisee, supplier or any other stakeholder because unless people are heard and nourished they feel disconnected and alone’. 

HOPe’s aim is to be there for people when they feel lost and don’t know where to go. Their latest initiative − a Befriending service − involves volunteers visiting people who feel isolated and who would welcome a cup of tea and a chat.  We know just how important that is! Heading up this project is Steve Anderton who explained, ‘There’s something very special about looking forward to a friendly visit and a nice chat, especially when you don’t have anyone else. That’s what we provide, and it makes a real difference to people’s lives.’

HOPe was founded in 2011 by two likeminded ladies and funded by a legacy. Since they started, the charity has secured nearly half a million pounds for local people which is spent locally. I had the pleasure of delivering the good news that HOPe had been chosen as Beatons New Milton’s Charity of the Year to Jo Kane, their Manager.

She was delighted and said, we’re very grateful to have been chosen. We would like to thank Beatons New Milton for their promise of support and look forward to enjoying a decent cup of tea and piece of cake!’ HOPe has a great shop only a stone’s throw away from where Beatons New Milton will be based, in Station Road. They are always looking for support and volunteers and you read more about them here.

How we help:  Each Beatons has their own Charity of the Year and has events to support it.  Our main contribution is giving 50p from every sale of The Charlton (soda) and our Community Chai Latte throughout the year.

Come and Support! Our first Beatons New Milton charity event will be our Open House on a Sunday afternoon, sometime after the Easter break. You’ll have a chance to meet members of the HOPe team, enjoy a free cup of our Beatons New Milton House tea – ‘Jasmine Blossom’ – and sample some of our home-baked cakes and scones. More importantly, there’ll be a little entertainment, a celebrity guest and a great opportunity to start raising more funds for HOPe!

Watch out for posters around the town, pop into Beatons’ New Milton when it opens around Easter, or come back here for full details soon!

Why did we choose New Milton as a great location for a Beatons?  Read more here.

Liz Darcy Jones
Non−Executive Director & House Poet